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The Psychology of Unattainable Desires.

The Psychology of Unattainable Desires.

It's natural for men and women to want what they can't have. When things seem unattainable it makes that object seem more desirable. What happens when that thing you are constantly craving for seems to come closer to grasp? Well you want it even more. There is a euphoria that naturally happens when we seem to come closer to that object of desire, be that object God or something personal or material. This is why we hope and dream, because we anticipate the bliss and satisfaction we will feel when we reach our goal. Adolescence is filled with this type of wanting and desires. What happens when that thing we are craving doesn't immediately become our reality? Well we still want it more.

It is natural to have right desires, desires that will give us a sense of joy and bliss. Peace of mind happens when we know our needs are being met. Having all our wants fulfilled doesn't necessarily give us peace of mind, but it can at times, provided that our wants naturally fit with who we are as a personality. We tend to think that we cannot be happy until all our needs are met, and until we feel totally secure we fool ourselves into thinking that peace of mind will only come when all our desires are fulfilled. God gives me a mind to use and to reason and to think, but sometimes we desire to have things without working for them.

This creates a vacuum in our souls, because we naturally feel that if I work too hard to achieve this thing that I am desiring, that I will ultimately feel let down when I achieve it! So we definitely stop trying to be happy, and we leave it up to someone else to meet our needs, instead or trusting God, or having faith to seek out that thing that we are craving. When we seek it out and it is denied us, we get frustrated with ourselves and stop trying. The secret is found in our memories and the pleasure we once had from something or someone, and then remembering why that person or thing gave us security and pleasure in the first place. Some people stop seeking God because they feel they would be unhappy if they found Him. This is where self-sufficiency backfires on us. We naturally feel God wants to take away our pleasure so we begin not seeking Him or seeking Him for selfish reasons, and not for reasons that will lead to the Glory of God, and our ultimate happiness and bliss in Heaven!

God then becomes a thing we must Master, instead of Him Mastering us. This is Mike.

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