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The Gift of Self-Acceptance.

The Gift of Self-Acceptance.

At times we are all vulnerable. Even the strongest of personalities can suffer with feelings of being insecure. When this happens, the trick is not to convince yourself that you are loveable, because that is something we intrinsically possess, but to practice ways in which you demonstrate that you love yourself, despite what you may be feeling. In our souls is a need and a craving to show and accept love, but we can only do this when we know how to live with our weaknesses. By becoming vulnerable with yourself, you can hold your strength in check, in order to discover your weaknesses. You want to see them, and then ignore them. We all need to live from a place of strength, but that doesn't mean you become unaware of your weaknesses.

Self -acceptance is the process in which you discover your strengths and decide to live by them, while at the same time becoming aware of your weaknesses. When you begin to see yourself as strong, you can build on those strengths while seeing that a community of similar faith can do the same thing. People compliment one another, so if someone is living from a weakness not a strength, it will reveal more about your own weaknesses and will make self-acceptance very hard for you. We all have a set of core beliefs and the hardest thing to overcome in this process is when someone challenges your own core beliefs. You don't need to know the reasons why they do this, maybe the best thing you can do is analyze what you truly believe about yourself, and what is consistent with what others see in you.

Your core beliefs are your heart beliefs, so if you believe in love and forgiveness, when these beliefs are challenged they should never change. Don't play games with your own self-perception of who you believe you are, which is what you believe about yourself. Unless you are willing to give up a part of who you are, don't surrender your self-perception to other people's projections of who or what they think they want you to be. Going through this process is called self-acceptance, and you might find that you want to live from your weaknesses because it is more safe, and comfortable. Don't confuse group acceptance with self-acceptance. Self-acceptance is a gift you can give to yourself freely, but you can't give it to others that way. Most of the times they will not understand why you are doing what you are doing, and will see it as a weakness to be taken advantage of, that is why you have to discover and then ignore your weaknesses, and live from a place of strength, which then makes self-acceptance an easier gift to give to yourself.

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