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Dreams, The "I just want to be Loved" Syndrome.

When we find ourselves locked in a cycle of unforgiveness, hating other people for perceived things that they may or may not have done, we can get depressed pretty quickly. When we want things in our lives a certain way and people are not cooperating, we can get depressed. When we start to grow old and nothing in our lives seems to be changing, we haven't met that special someone, and other people are pressuring us or pressing their will, their agenda into our hearts and lives, we just want to be loved. It is not truly a diagnosable thing, but the syndrome to turn in on your self, and instead of filling your mind with good things, you get paralysed with the thought that you "just want to be loved!" You feel your rights are slipping from you and if you don't act fast you will lose that person you really love. Maybe the other person wants it this way? To get sucked into a relationship because your parents want you to be with that person, especially as an adult is really nothing to worry about.

As you age you gain a little bit of knowledge. This is different from wisdom because wisdom puts that knowledge into force. To be on the receiving end of someone's affection can be a charming thing, but it can also put up a barrier between you and the person because what might seem like a real relationship, is really only one sided. You may have affection for that person who is loving you, but it is a selfish affection. It's like feeling like you have become the desire of someone else's hopes and dreams with out you asking for it, or it is like my doctors office asking for my consent in a letter and giving me no option to opt out. Really there is no consent either way.

Life is like that sometimes, we see other people working to make themselves happy or great with no real direction on how to do it. I believe you must have a plan, but the thing with plans is that they can and will fail. I have a desire to do something with music still, but my plan is being thwarted by my aching body and the reality that it hasn't happened yet. We hold on to our dreams we had in our twenties expecting them to come true without any effort. The scary thing is that some people have dreams in their old age that they had when they were children, and I believe that to a certain degree they can come true, but because we are lazy we fail to make the effort needed to succeed.

For me the purpose in my life was not to make sure that I'm living the dream, but that I am living my dreams. Living your dreams doesn't mean that they are all coming true, it means living with the consciousness that you still remember them and you are working at achieving them. The next time you have a meal, or do something constructive, do it knowing that you are working towards something. When life puts things in your way that seem to destroy your dream right now, remember if you were destined for that thing it will come true, so long as you keep on dreaming. The reason why they are called dreams is because they belong to us personally. You don't live out someone else's dream, you live out your own. Dreams can change, because we can change our minds. Some dreams stay with us our whole lives, and when they don't come true we question reality. I think we should be open to questioning our current dreams, if we lack the skill we should try to gain perspective and immediately change our dreams. This is Mike.

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