Judgement is not a topic that most people like to talk about, doesn't the bible say judge not lest you be judged? But we live in a world unfortunately where we are placing our judgements all the time. But God's judgements are not like human judgements. We base our judgement on a person, place or a thing with preconceived notions about how we think that person, place or thing should be acting. Mostly, when someone doesn't meet our needs or expectations they become our enemies. It really doesn't take long for someone you have good feeling for to become the object of our scorn.
People can be finicky and we can very easily become fair-weather friends, but when the going gets tough you really find out who are your real friends by who stuck with you, and is still there. Sometimes we look to people to meet our needs and when they stop meeting our needs, they are no longer useful to us. We can experience in this life very harsh judgements by those who feel a sense of pride over us. They might feel jealous about something we have received and they have not. We have all sensed at one point the feeling of being in need, and our needs not being met.
When we find ourselves in a situation in life where our needs are not being met, and the only one we feel can meet those needs isn't meeting them, we can get angry at that person, as if to say that if they were our true friend they would be meeting all our needs. Because we are an interdependent species, we need people. It is true that most of the time, we have the power to meet our needs and some of us need to really start doing that. Because we were placed on this earth with other people, I believe God has arranged it that we should need one another. But what do you do when someone refuses to participate?
We all have free will, and we choose who we are going to love and meet. Together in this way people meet on another's needs. If I were an island, which no man is, I would not need anyone to meet my needs. But sometimes we act that way. We withdraw from those we once loved, and seek out those who will truly meet our needs. Say goodbye to those older friends, you know the ones you now hate. It is a sad thing in life when we start looking at other's faults more than at the good qualities of that person's soul. When we focus this way, we loose perspective on our own faults and become one sided. It is easy to say this man or woman needs help, but what about myself? We all need help at times. Compassion keeps us aware of other peoples needs, and when we lack this quality we experience loneliness and isolation in our hearts.
There is no quick fix to getting your needs met. You can first try by meeting those needs you can meet yourself. A lot of people turn to religion, and there is nothing wrong with that, but if in our religion we turn our backs on others, because they don't fit in, there will come a day when we will not fit in! Then what? This life is short and we need to forgive as soon as we realize someone has hurt us. When there is no longer any desire in that person to stop hurting us, they clearly are not acting out of love. There is no greater pain, than when someone walks away from you, it could be anyone, not just someone you are in a relationship with. The greatest fear in that moment is, will I ever be loved again? If we hold on to those feelings, we can get depressed. Even if everyone stopped loving you, you would be accountable to yourself and to God if you believe in Him.
Yes this world can be cruel, and our deepest desire is to be loved. I can promise you if you are alone there is someone else in this world who is just as alone. I believe that providence will bring you together, and Lord willing keep you together.
People can be finicky and we can very easily become fair-weather friends, but when the going gets tough you really find out who are your real friends by who stuck with you, and is still there. Sometimes we look to people to meet our needs and when they stop meeting our needs, they are no longer useful to us. We can experience in this life very harsh judgements by those who feel a sense of pride over us. They might feel jealous about something we have received and they have not. We have all sensed at one point the feeling of being in need, and our needs not being met.
When we find ourselves in a situation in life where our needs are not being met, and the only one we feel can meet those needs isn't meeting them, we can get angry at that person, as if to say that if they were our true friend they would be meeting all our needs. Because we are an interdependent species, we need people. It is true that most of the time, we have the power to meet our needs and some of us need to really start doing that. Because we were placed on this earth with other people, I believe God has arranged it that we should need one another. But what do you do when someone refuses to participate?
We all have free will, and we choose who we are going to love and meet. Together in this way people meet on another's needs. If I were an island, which no man is, I would not need anyone to meet my needs. But sometimes we act that way. We withdraw from those we once loved, and seek out those who will truly meet our needs. Say goodbye to those older friends, you know the ones you now hate. It is a sad thing in life when we start looking at other's faults more than at the good qualities of that person's soul. When we focus this way, we loose perspective on our own faults and become one sided. It is easy to say this man or woman needs help, but what about myself? We all need help at times. Compassion keeps us aware of other peoples needs, and when we lack this quality we experience loneliness and isolation in our hearts.
There is no quick fix to getting your needs met. You can first try by meeting those needs you can meet yourself. A lot of people turn to religion, and there is nothing wrong with that, but if in our religion we turn our backs on others, because they don't fit in, there will come a day when we will not fit in! Then what? This life is short and we need to forgive as soon as we realize someone has hurt us. When there is no longer any desire in that person to stop hurting us, they clearly are not acting out of love. There is no greater pain, than when someone walks away from you, it could be anyone, not just someone you are in a relationship with. The greatest fear in that moment is, will I ever be loved again? If we hold on to those feelings, we can get depressed. Even if everyone stopped loving you, you would be accountable to yourself and to God if you believe in Him.
Yes this world can be cruel, and our deepest desire is to be loved. I can promise you if you are alone there is someone else in this world who is just as alone. I believe that providence will bring you together, and Lord willing keep you together.
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