I have been listening to a lot of jazz and classical music over the holidays, because there is something about this kind of music that sooths my soul. I can't complain, this year has been a great year for me. I became a published writer/author, and I became an uncle for the first time. I shouldn't feel a sense that this year has been a failure, and I could chalk it up to me just being too hard on myself and trying too hard to meeting other's expectations. I think around this time of year, we over think many things, and we have real expectations that we place on others, that if not meet immediately, we become hurt and toxic. I think that if we have eyes of wisdom this year around, when the bad stuff happens we won't be so surprised by it. Like any time of year, we want to be happy, but this is the time of year that we spend with family and friends and it can be the most dangerous time of year when things don't go as planned. We fear being in pain, and we fear our lov