Why we can't live without hope.
Hope gives us a reason to live. There was never a happier time in my life than when I had hope. It's easy to think that things can't get better and that is one of the reasons why we give up. Hope doesn't have to come from having things, but when we have things we can still lose hope. A health crisis, an unhappy marriage can give us reason to believe that we will miss out on being happy. When things are really bad we might need someone to carry us or pick us up. It's nice to feel secure but hope comes from believing there is a future. Part of the cause of my depression in 1999 was feeling that I wasn't going to have a future, therefore I had no reason to keep believing. I let my circumstances literally crush me, but now I don't blame myself, because I see that I was just human and fragile, just like everyone else.
It took me 20 years to see that I needed to forgive myself for losing hope. It was a fight, and it is a struggle to see that people need each other and that we all need something or someone to hope for. When we feel alone and not seen it can do a number on my sense of self-worth. I no longer see myself as someone with value, and if I'm not careful I can turn to the wrong things to bring back that sense of self worth. I can turn to religion, I can turn to psychology, and other things. Even though these things can help, and for some they bring back some security, my hope should come from me and my ability to live my life, and make my own choices and to decide that I want to be happy. I have heard many things about hope over the years, and if it seems you are one of those people that keep being put under the bus, try to get out.
You'll be much happier in the long run, not if you learn to just depend on yourself but if you see the importance in allowing yourself to experience hope again. Maybe you just need to feel free, maybe you needed to make those mistakes in order to encourage someone who like you lost their hope. Maybe someone abused you, and the last thing you want to do is forgive them and move on. It could be that you are reminded day after day of that person, or that there is a thing there to constantly harass you and you want to be free. You dream of the day that you get your sense of control back. Don't give up.
This is why we lose hope, we feel we can't win over that person or circumstances that hurt us, or hurt the ones we love. We need our power back, and that is what evil wants to do to you. It wants to get you to think that you can't choose for the good anymore. Just say no to those thoughts. They are there to accuse you, you don't need to overpower them, just try being kinder to yourself, and assert yourself. If you are not sure how to do that, just remember a time in your life where you had more confidence. What are you doing different now? Find those who will affirm and love you. This is Mike.
Hope gives us a reason to live. There was never a happier time in my life than when I had hope. It's easy to think that things can't get better and that is one of the reasons why we give up. Hope doesn't have to come from having things, but when we have things we can still lose hope. A health crisis, an unhappy marriage can give us reason to believe that we will miss out on being happy. When things are really bad we might need someone to carry us or pick us up. It's nice to feel secure but hope comes from believing there is a future. Part of the cause of my depression in 1999 was feeling that I wasn't going to have a future, therefore I had no reason to keep believing. I let my circumstances literally crush me, but now I don't blame myself, because I see that I was just human and fragile, just like everyone else.
It took me 20 years to see that I needed to forgive myself for losing hope. It was a fight, and it is a struggle to see that people need each other and that we all need something or someone to hope for. When we feel alone and not seen it can do a number on my sense of self-worth. I no longer see myself as someone with value, and if I'm not careful I can turn to the wrong things to bring back that sense of self worth. I can turn to religion, I can turn to psychology, and other things. Even though these things can help, and for some they bring back some security, my hope should come from me and my ability to live my life, and make my own choices and to decide that I want to be happy. I have heard many things about hope over the years, and if it seems you are one of those people that keep being put under the bus, try to get out.
You'll be much happier in the long run, not if you learn to just depend on yourself but if you see the importance in allowing yourself to experience hope again. Maybe you just need to feel free, maybe you needed to make those mistakes in order to encourage someone who like you lost their hope. Maybe someone abused you, and the last thing you want to do is forgive them and move on. It could be that you are reminded day after day of that person, or that there is a thing there to constantly harass you and you want to be free. You dream of the day that you get your sense of control back. Don't give up.
This is why we lose hope, we feel we can't win over that person or circumstances that hurt us, or hurt the ones we love. We need our power back, and that is what evil wants to do to you. It wants to get you to think that you can't choose for the good anymore. Just say no to those thoughts. They are there to accuse you, you don't need to overpower them, just try being kinder to yourself, and assert yourself. If you are not sure how to do that, just remember a time in your life where you had more confidence. What are you doing different now? Find those who will affirm and love you. This is Mike.
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