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Life without an Agenda.

What is an agenda? I think it is more than just plans, purposes and dates, but truly all these things come into factor when you feel like your life has some greater purpose. I don't want to define an agenda, you can check a dictionary, you see it's part of my agenda to show you that life can be much more happier when we make room for spontaneous choices and decisions, which should illicit a form of happiness that we might have forgotten. As we get older, we soon realise that we no longer have an infinite amount of time, and if we don't set some "rules" for ourselves we could end up unprepared for old age. When we participate in life, we come across all kinds of agendas that some people like to live their lives by. You might have heard of churches pushing discipleship courses and groups, and there is nothing wrong with leaders wanting to create order, but the minute you reveal something that is hidden (like an agenda) you become the target of that organisation/person.

It's not like they want to see you disappear, but it's like you are revealing their secrets to the rest of the people in the corporation, and the boss doesn't want the average Jane or Joe to know how they are running their business. It's the same in relationships where one or two people have an agenda for the other person. It's not the same as having hopes and dreams that you share for your future, but if you are not careful pushing your agenda, unknown to the other person, you could destroy that relationship.

I am not talking about feeling trapped in a relationship, because most of the times those without the agenda usually find their way out. It's when the other person's agenda is revealed that things get ugly. It's comparable to a magician getting up to do his tricks, and someone in the audience shouts out the secret for the trick, against the magicians will! Agendas come in all shapes and colours, and it is really an art form to get to know somebody, to eventually discover that they have a plan and purpose for your relationship with them, that goes against everything you believe in. Part of these types of agendas involves compromise of some sort, usually the other person wants something from you and only you have the power to give that thing to the other person. That's where the agenda comes in, when you reveal someone's hidden agenda, it leaves them powerless to control you. You then become a target of that person abuse, because that is all that they can do to you now, is heap abuse on you for revealing their hidden purpose for their actions. That's what an agenda is, it is behaviour intentionally directed towards a person or a community, with the intentions of getting the person or the community to make a choice or complete a behaviour that goes against your own desired purpose for your own life.

You might want to know if agenda's are successful? They are only in the extent that you allow them to be! Someone cannot force you to do something, only if you give them permission. (That's called manipulation) Agendas have a shelf life from the time that they are hidden from you, and imposed on you, till the time you wake up and realise that you were being controlled the whole time
. This is Mike.

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